Sometimes I’m an INFJ, sometimes I’m not? How is that possible?
I’ve always known I’m an introvert but it was only in the last couple months that I found out about this Myers Briggs personality test. There’s loads of free tests going around but I originally completed this one and I was slightly confused when I got my results…
‘INFJ’ … what on earth is that?
So I decided to research
I really related to being an INFJ
I started Googling ‘INFJ’ and found loads of information about how this new abbreviation apparently explained my whole existence. I read blog posts, I jumped on Reddit, I searched the INFJ hashtag on Twitter. There was so much to take in. It was like I unearthed a secret society. There were so many people that shared the same experiences as me. Strangely I felt everything I was reading but understood little. (INFJs will understand). When people asked me what an INFJ was…I couldn’t really explain it. I just knew I had found ‘home’. I had found a new community of people that seemed to share the same life experiences as myself and I’ll be honest, it was an enlightening experience. I felt like all the articles I read were written for me. It was like all the tweets containing #INFJ were messages directly from my inner self speaking back to me through words on a screen. It was like a rebirthing experience. A homecoming. It was like I had found my way back to my true self and I felt somewhat at peace.
I loved being apart of the 1%
As I continued researching about this ‘INFJ’ trait I was shocked and also not surprised to find out it was the rarest personality type. Only 1%?! Now initially I thought that’s pretty cool! Who wouldn’t want to be apart of the 1%! Then I found out Oprah Winfrey was an INFJ too! Well, that just sealed the deal! Me and Ms Winfrey were basically besties! lol
However, my INFJ bubble was burst abruptly on Sunday 5th August at approximately 9pm. My few months of new found identity came crashing down. I was confronted with this new reality that I had just tested as an ISFJ.
I know, I know. Let me explain.
On Sunday 5th August, I was on my laptop, thinking of a blog post to write…(because that’s what I do…I write). Anyways, I was sat there with my ‘INFJ’ self, thinking what topic I should explore this week. In my thought process I got completely distracted and ended up taking another online personality test (as you do). I thought, let me just double check if I’m really this thing called an ‘INFJ’. I answered the questions honestly and expected to see the same results.
But I didn’t.
I remember staring blankly at the screen looking at the letters ISFJ…
I felt like a fraud
I felt like I was a fraud. I felt like I forced my way into the INFJ community without doing the proper checks. I had it in my Twitter profile (still do) and I told all my friends and family that I’m apart of this ‘1%’. When you align yourself with a particular personality trait and join all these communities and genuinely feel like you connect with these strangers on the deepest level you’ve ever experienced, it’s a bit rubbish to find out you’re not really one of them!
So I decided to take the test again…and yup you guessed it…I was back to being an INFJ
I realised that you can’t always follow labels…
Ok so now that made me totally confused. Am I an INFJ or an ISFJ? This then made me question the whole personality trait thing.
Can someone’s life really be defined by an abbreviation? Should we even bother to adhere to these labels?
Yes and no.
I think labels are great to form some kind of understanding and identity of yourself, but I don’t think it should be the base of your whole existence. I believe that there’s something more spirited about us as people and these spirits cannot be labelled. We’re all different. Technically, we’re all apart of that 1% and I suppose I didn’t really need a personality test to tell me that! Whether you’re an INFP, ISFJ or an ITSPIJGJG. There’s only one of you! And there will never be another copy.
However, I don’t completely disregard the Myers Briggs test as it has really helped explain some of my traits and ways I operate. I can accept that most of the time I display traits of an INFJ. I love talking about deep philosophical theories. I love talking about abstract things (INFJ). But then I also like order and base my decisions on past experiences and things that I can understand logically (ISFJ).
So is it possible for me to be an INFJ on a good day? And an ISFJ on a bad one? Or even the other way round?
I’m definitely a BOLD INTROVERT
One thing I know for sure is that I’m definitely a BOLD INTROVERT! I don’t care if people don’t understand my introversion. I’ve come to realise that being an introvert is awesome and we hold so many unique traits that this world needs! Introversion is one label I welcome whole heartedly and would proudly wear it on a t-shirt if I could (check out some cool introvert tees here).
Anyways folks, just thought I’d share that with you. What do you think to the Myers Briggs personality traits? Is it a load of rubbish or do you think yours is pretty accurate?