Here’s Why Every Introvert Can Master Confidence

The only problem with an introvert is that society doesn't allow us to be confident in the ways that suit us.

As an introvert, have you ever looked at other extroverts and thought, I wish I could be as confident as them? Have you ever envied their presence? Charisma? Wit?

We all have.

At some point every introvert has questioned why they’re not ‘confident’ or why they don’t enjoy being the centre of attention. Growing up in an extroverted world can make you feel isolated, different and just plain old ODD! Society’s measurements of confidence is usually based on loudness, assertiveness and even rudeness! Anything opposite to this, is deemed as shyness or a lack of confidence.

However, confidence comes in different forms and it is definitely a skill that every introvert can master!

Confidence is NOT a personality trait.

Let’s not get confused. You aren’t born confident. It’s something you learn and develop over time. It comes with practice. The only problem with an introvert is that society doesn’t allow us to be confident in the ways that suit us.

So how do introverts master confidence?

It starts by reaffirming who you are as a person. That means, discovering your TRUE self. Doing some soul searching. Reading some good educational books! Meditating! All these activities create a strong foundation for your confidence.

Introvert Reading

The best way for an introvert to develop confidence is simply practice. Putting yourself in a challenging situation forces a reaction. Pushing yourself out your comfort zone brings beautiful opportunities!

But what does this confidence look like once you’ve mastered it?

It means feeling OK sat on your own in a room full of people

It means speaking up on issues that go against your values

It means being OK with declining those invitations because you would rather stay home and read a book.

It means making a decision and sticking to it, regardless of the outcome and finally it is all about being accountable.

Introvert at coffee shop

Your confidence will not demand attention

An introvert can learn all of these skills through sheer practice and dedication. Once mastered, your confidence will not demand attention, nor will it be loud and brash. It will be quiet, unassuming and powerful in the moments when you need it the most! Do not under estimate the introverted power you’ve been gifted with. If done correctly, it becomes a confidence like no other! There’s something intriguing about a quietly confident person. It adds an element of mystery. It may confuse people, they may criticise, they may even force you to ‘come out of your shell’ or refer to you as shy. Remember, introversion does not equal shyness so don’t let anyone tell you any different!

But if you have mastered the skill of confidence, none of that will matter anymore. You’ll continue being the quiet powerhouse that you were made to be!

What do you do to work on your confidence?



Writer. Entrepreneur. Content Creator. Wife. Mother & Founder of Quietly Ambitious and all round BOLD introvert! You'll probably catch me with a cup of tea in one hand and typing with the other. Not ideal I know *slurps*

4 comments on “Here’s Why Every Introvert Can Master Confidence

  1. krismadeablog

    What helps to build my confidence is knowledge. If I had my way, I’d spend all day reading, listening to podcasts, and watching documentaries.
    That works to my advantage sometimes, but my confidence is destroyed whenever I have to speak on a subject I don’t understand.

    • Yes, interesting point! I think that’s the big difference between introverts and extroverts. An extrovert would find a way to still talk about a subject they don’t really understand. Gift of the gab works well in these situations!

      Whereas, an introvert would rather not speak on topics they don’t understand and if forced to, could create great discomfort! And as we really pride ourselves on authenticity, having a full understanding of the topic we’re speaking about is absolutely necessary for us!

      Thanks for reading Kris ☺️

  2. africanstylefi

    I agree with Kris. Knowledge increases my confidence. When it comes to talking on a subject I don’t know much about. I think I am just scared of what others will think or looking stupid. But like you mentioned in the post, I am trying to improve my confidence through meditation, practicing and just being more positive. I try to look at it as a journey and not something that happens overnight.

    • It definitely is a journey that requires a lot of consistence and dedication! But you’re on the right track! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment

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