As an introvert, have you ever looked at other extroverts and thought, I wish I could be as confident as them? Have you ever envied their presence? Charisma? Wit?
We all have.
At some point every introvert has questioned why they’re not ‘confident’ or why they don’t enjoy being the centre of attention. Growing up in an extroverted world can make you feel isolated, different and just plain old ODD! Society’s measurements of confidence is usually based on loudness, assertiveness and even rudeness! Anything opposite to this, is deemed as shyness or a lack of confidence.
However, confidence comes in different forms and it is definitely a skill that every introvert can master!
Confidence is NOT a personality trait.
Let’s not get confused. You aren’t born confident. It’s something you learn and develop over time. It comes with practice. The only problem with an introvert is that society doesn’t allow us to be confident in the ways that suit us.
So how do introverts master confidence?
It starts by reaffirming who you are as a person. That means, discovering your TRUE self. Doing some soul searching. Reading some good educational books! Meditating! All these activities create a strong foundation for your confidence.
The best way for an introvert to develop confidence is simply practice. Putting yourself in a challenging situation forces a reaction. Pushing yourself out your comfort zone brings beautiful opportunities!
But what does this confidence look like once you’ve mastered it?
It means speaking up on issues that go against your values
It means being OK with declining those invitations because you would rather stay home and read a book.
It means making a decision and sticking to it, regardless of the outcome and finally it is all about being accountable.
Your confidence will not demand attention
An introvert can learn all of these skills through sheer practice and dedication. Once mastered, your confidence will not demand attention, nor will it be loud and brash. It will be quiet, unassuming and powerful in the moments when you need it the most! Do not under estimate the introverted power you’ve been gifted with. If done correctly, it becomes a confidence like no other! There’s something intriguing about a quietly confident person. It adds an element of mystery. It may confuse people, they may criticise, they may even force you to ‘come out of your shell’ or refer to you as shy. Remember, introversion does not equal shyness so don’t let anyone tell you any different!
But if you have mastered the skill of confidence, none of that will matter anymore. You’ll continue being the quiet powerhouse that you were made to be!
What do you do to work on your confidence?